Haunted by the past – a never ending sink hole.

How often do we try to forget the things that haunt us? Maybe down the years, we try to forget everything and eventually succeed. But as years go by, and something no matter how small it is; takes you back to the memory lane. You can only think of those moments that you tried to forget. 

Well, we have all been there, and if you’re reading this I am pretty sure you are going through it too. So how can we help? Personally, I think it’s hard to tell all the things to someone we know. Maybe the fear of judgement or maybe being neglected. No matter what it is, we can easily confide into a stranger. That is the best therapy.

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Getting haunted by the past is the worse thing. We all want to be away. But let you past be bygone, think of one thing you want to do in your life and do it. Why wait for that delicious restaurant you want to try or the place you wanted to visit for years? Do it, let it heal you.

You never know how many days are left in your life, live it like it is your last day.

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Karachiite Girl in the BIG city!!

Growing up in any big city, you get exposed to so many beautiful cultures. I’ve grown up with a lot of open eyes around me that’s influenced my eyes to open.

– King Krule

Well, I have to agree with the above statement. As we all know Karachi is filled people belonging to different race, culture, religion and ethnicity. You can experience all kind of experiences that the world have to offer,You have amusement park like Aladdin (Believe me, I am still excited each time I visit it and discovery – the ride, just pumps up the adrenaline.)

I just found this video on YouTube, so those who haven’t been there. Trust me, you will love it.

SAFETY:

One of the major concerns we all have as being an independent girl in the big city is being safe. Well, until today I haven’t been mugged. Just praise the Lord and hope it doesn’t happen. Apart from that, roaming on the streets is not that dangerous as the TV and MEDIA makes it sound. I do have chores to do, get the groceries and pay up the bills. I never knew people of Karachi were so courteous and friendly. Not to disappoint the people of Lahore or Islamabad; but people are not friendly there at all. And they won’t ever bother giving direction. Or maybe I just had the bad experience in the city.

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Learning how to use a gun can be fun. #JustSaying

Friends:

As I am being told by my elders, GIRLS shouldn’t have MALE friends. I don’t know why some people still consider it as a taboo. But things are evolving and people are accepting the two opposite gender can work or study together without having the awkward sexual tensions between them. Kudos to all my loving friends. And just saying, i do have lots of girlfriend who make my life much better.

Komal, Annie, YusraZartashia, Naveen, Osama, Maaz, Danish, Ahmed, Samad, Zubair and many more that I can’t mention. You guys make up my life more bearable and way better than my boyfriend ever did. Love you loads!!

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Friends are also great selfie partners!! 

TIP:

Yes, and one should never give a shit to society. I remember hearing tons of lectures from my mum when one of my male friends use to drop me home. I think they are just being gentleman; whereas the people who see me getting off a car things I might be dating the person should seriously get a life. 

Travelling:

Being in the big city and not having a car to drive is very annoying. You keep on asking your friends if they can pick you up whenever you plan a hangout can be a mess. But what to say, all my friends signed up for it. *evil laugh*

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Apart from that, I do take autos. It’s safe and fun. And very cheap; i mean it. Don’t just let the driver make you pay hundreds when you can always bargain on it and cut to the half price. You guys won’t believe it; I use to travel to Urdu Science College (Gulshan-e-Iqbal) from Tooba Masjid in just 150 rupees. A girl should always know how to bargain in a big city.

FOOD:

I haven’t been to all the food spots but there are quite some that are my regulars. I know this sounds a bit crazy but I am one of those people who love SUBWAY. I know only one person likes it in a thousand according to a study i read. But whatever! Subways are great and I can make the best ones.

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these tables and the perfect blend of chai!!! 

Other than that, I would always love to hit the Chai Dhabbas like Chai Shai or Chaiwala. Both are pretty great. Or if you’re talking about fine dinning; I like Sajjad. I remember three years back a friend introduce me to it. And now I am a fan of their electric lemonade and chocolate sizzling brownie; must have!!

And talk about the food streets, you can munch as much as you can from Boat Basin and still won’t be enough. Ugh, the smell is so tempting.. but my weight machine says no. Always, and it wonders why i hate it so much.

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Tempting!! 

So if you’re new to the city, hit spots like boat basin, burns road, do darya (impeccable services).

SHOPPING:

I am not going to brag about it, but KARACHI is like a paradise for shoppers. From all the big malls to thrift stores. You can easily get what you want. I am not brand conscious but I do love GENERATIONS but apart from that I use to love thrift shopping at sunday bazaar. They had nice shoes over there and you would find amazing painting there. Damn the people, who closed it. But you got places like Atrium and Zanaib Market. Where you get pretty much everything in a decent price. Or if you’re busy studying or working just order it online from daraz.

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So many clothes, so little time to buy them all. 

Strangers:

When I first step out of the home, I felt scared.

Every new face i saw was haunting me; but gradually i realised people don’t notice unless you’re wearing jeans. Being in the big city, people are least bother with what you’re doing. Most of them are into getting their stuff together. And at times I don’t even know what going in my neighbourhood.

But you will realise as time passes by some of the faces fades away, while others be your friends.

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OVERALL I will say, living is Karachi has it pros and cons. But I love the city no matter what people say to me. I will live my life with my ways, and all those considering things as taboo should get a life. I am doing it my way and deal with it.

I guess this above statement shows that girls in KARACHI are not scared to things on their own. And they will study and be on top of their professions. No matter what the people say. You have one life, make sure you live it to the fullest.

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Life is too short to worry about things that can not be changed. 

 

Being raised up in the big city is not as flashy as it sounds, I do remember the look on my cousins faces when I visit them and they will be keen to hear everything I have to say about my city. So why not just share the experience with you. And if I missed on something, do let me know in the comments section below. 

And that all folks. See you soon.

Sharmeen Obaid Chinoy!

Hello Pakistanis…

“She should rot in hell, how dare she showed the bad side of Pakistan”

Woah! This is some serious hate we are having towards the lady who is making documentaries on the issues of Pakistan. First of all, I want to tell you that before passing any comment how about we learn what documentary and film is. We should at least tell the difference between a fact or fiction. A documentary shows the real story, the dirty truth. ( http://www.videouniversity.com/videou-how-tos/whats-the-difference-between-documentary-and-feature-film/ – If you need to know more)

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You may have a lot of your own opinions, about telling how the world is seeing the badside of Pakistan due to this short film, but I want to ask you how many of the foreigner think it’s safe to travel here? We are living in a state where international cricket teams don’t come to play because it is UNSAFE! So if someone is taking a stand to step up and tell what is actually happening. Because we can’t find a solution if we don’t know about the problem. All she wants is to aware us with the current situation.

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People living in big cities wouldn’t even know what is like to live in a place where honor killing are acceptable. Oh yes! You should think for a second, stop being a hypocrite patriotic and do something for this country. And if you can’t then you should stop spreading hate against people who are actually thinking for a CHANGE. How hypocrites of us. How many of US will actually be friends with someone who have been attacked by acid?

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I can’t see any hands raising? How many of us will save a person who is being attacked? None. We would rather run for our lives. We live in a country where half of the population is not educated and other half is majority stupid enough to believe that they are superior and don’t care about the others.

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“Sharmeen, honestly i have been proud of you. I don’t care what the people say. I know that all you want is a Change and somebody has to start somewhere. So no matter how many people are against you. Just do what you’re doing.” – Natasha

 

Desires.. Never fulfilled.

“Just 2 more marks, I could have an A” – Adam

“Oh, I wish I had a better grade. ” – Ayesha

“I should have concentrated on studies I could pass it.” –Sameer

Well haven’t we been through this? Those wishes…. We all wished for. But have we ever realized and been grateful for all that we have, in the same universe someone might be praying to get what you are neglecting. 

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Could we just halt these desires that have a never ending STOP. And be thankful for all that we have.

I am not going to write tons and tons and make you so bored, in simple words I want to say that no matter what are you going through. Be positive and grateful. You never know when is the last day you would be enjoying all these things. And don’t forget to share, there is no better joy than sharing. After all, sharing is caring. 

 

Cheers!
xoxox

Lost Childhood

Hey peeps!!

How are you doing? I have been away since long, apologies… So I come back with another thoughtful topic. Our childhood.

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Don’t we all miss that, the running in the rain, eating gola gandas, playing cricket, crying over chocolates, playing hopscotch and many more!

But I feel sorry for my younger brother who cannot live all that. All he can do is play games on PSP or get the latest phone. I feel sorry for him, that in this technology race. He lost his childhood. He doesn’t know about the effort of watching tv after doing your homework! The art and crafts we use to make! Those small things made me who I am! And I believe that what every 90’s kid will say.

I guess we lived in a generation where technologies was about to take over. And it just did. I see my 5 years old niece having a cellphone. And she know way better how to function it. I do agree technology have made our life better! But how can it take over our lives. I will simply say no to it.

So all the parents who are reading this, your children don’t need latest laptops, iPads or cellphones. They need you to guide them. Because in future that will turn them into the people who want them to be.

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We need to let out children have fun

HE did that, SHE did that!

SHE was doing barely fine, but promised SHE will never hurt herself again. Living in a world filled with monsters, SHE wore the mask of happiness. Going here and there, trying to keep up with her loneliness. Suddenly SHE meets him; THE MR RIGHT. Going all crazy with all the promises and lies HE makes up. Thinking this time it will be different. Silly girl, SHE was not aware what the future had to hold for her was way worse then she could ever imagine.

Their love grew like a flower, HE promised her every happiness. SHE was filled with joy and happiness. Finally her life was picture perfect but suddenly it was crashing down. SHE was in a shock, how can in a short span of time HE has the power to do that to her. To kill her without doing a thing. SHE got herself addicted to him while HE was busy goofing around. SHE saw him enjoying with his friends while she waits every night for him. SHE kept on begging for his and he kept making excuses. SHE tried leaving him but SHE never had the will to do so,thinking this time it will change.

Then, SHE finally see how happy HE was without her so SHE gave up on the one thing that kept her alive. SHE kept quiet while HE was busy in his life. Taking her for granted that no matter what happens SHE is gonna stick around. But this time it is not like that; SHE let him go for him!

 

 

The Bandwagon of Love

Happiness is your blog being posted by the IULS!,

We all have watched that one romantic movie that has made us fall in love. It is the idea of falling in love that our generation has loved and adapted time and again.  We hate flaws and are so obsessed with perfectionism that we will find flaws in every person. Either we find someone too short, too tall, too fair, too dark, too fat or too skinny. These aren’t the only labels that we have to deal with. A person hanging out a lot with the opposite gender is also taken quite negatively in our society.

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Meet someone new, exchange numbers, add them on social networking websites, late-night conversations, those long question-answer sessions and going out on dates etc.  We know the drill all too well, don’t we? Most of haven’t been in love, it’s the idea! The thrill that excites us. Did we really mess up the concept of love? It…

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Fear of being lonely!

Hello peeps!!

Today I will write about something we all face. How many of us jump into relations because we fear that we cannot be lonely? Is this far moving world, we are so busy in pleasing the world that we forget to give yourself the attention we need and require. We all want to be loved, but what is the use of that love which is not lasting. How can we live with the people who are not our ideal soul mate. Ideal? They are least bothered about us. Putting pictures together on social sites is the new trend. Everyone wants to blend in. But what is the use to blend in when you’re born to stand out? Is being a happy couple online is what our goal is?
I don’t get it why people are so reluctant in loving our-self. I personally believe that if we can start giving us time that’s is how we can achieve it.

We don’t need to live with someone just because we are alone, how can we find happiness in others when we are not satisfied by our-self. Start loving yourself before you start loving others. And believe me, everyone has a soul-mate out there.

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As i always say, we should not look for love but let love find us.

You are the only person who can help yourself
You are the only person who can help yourself